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I am sure all of you have gone to schools and some of you have studied in Colleges too.

There are many subjects taught in educational institutions like languages, Mathematics, Sciences, Humanities, Engineering, medicine, law, etc. Conventional wisdom tells us that students should get high marks in school to get into a good college, then get high marks in college to get selected for a good job which will then lead to a successful career. However, a study by the Tata Institute of Social Science Research has shown that there is no correlation between students’ academic achievements and their success in life.

“Education is what survives after you have forgotten what you learned at school “opined the famous psychologist B. F. Skinner.

What is meant by phrase being successful in life? Does it mean getting a good job and earning a high salary? Or leading a happy and peaceful life as a responsible citizen?

“Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune,” said Jim Rohn.

Many students who can be termed average or poor in terms of results are working in top-notch companies or have started own business and doing really well. They may not have scored good marks but they acquired life skills besides formal education. A peep into their lives shows that self-education acquired through reading, interacting with people, and passionately chasing their dreams, made them really successful.

We have a long list of college dropouts like Jack Ma, Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, who made it big, leaving behind toppers. Many of the topper students could not clear interviews to get decent jobs and ended up as a round peg in a square hole. Hence real parameter of success should not be achievements like degree-promotions-pay checks but should be happiness-peace-love!

I would like to reiterate, that by no means, I am trying to underrate the curriculum or dissuading students from putting their heart and soul in studies and excelling therein. I am looking at a broader perspective of developing a balanced personality leading to happiness and success in the real sense of the term.

In a constantly changing environment, having life skills is an essential part of being able to meet the challenges of everyday life. It is difficult to believe, that people are hired for plush jobs because of high IQ, but they are fired because of low EQ.

Do you know that out of every four people three are not happy? Do you know that more than ninety percent of the people are so busy that they don’t have time for themselves or their families? Do you know that stress is the biggest killer in the age group 30 to 40 years? A recent survey found that over 70 % of people the age group 30-50 are obese. The increasing rate of crimes committed by so-called educated people puts a question mark on the relevance of degrees in the present context. Strained relationships not only in families but also among neighbors and colleagues at work are posing a serious challenge these days. Road rage, bullying, violence, rapes are threatening the social fabric of our society. Precious resources like water and electricity are being wasted and nature is being rampaged. The values of helping, sharing, and caring are soon becoming extinct.

I don’t mean to paint a gloomy picture of the things to come. There is certainly a solution. The teaching of schools and colleges needs to be augmented with life education, developing character qualities and inculcating certain traits that enable a person to become a better version of oneself. This way we will make this world a better place to live in.

101 such life skills have been explained in my book “101 ways of becoming better”. It is available by clicking on the link https://www.amazon.in/dp/9382524770

Besides this, I am uploading powerful videos regularly on my YouTube channel Guldasta which will facilitate you to become happy and successful.


To fill this ever-widening gap between formal education and education for life we have designed an online course which includes the following:

  1. Understanding success and failure.
  2. Be a good listener
  3. Learn to say ‘no’
  4. How to maintain cordial relationships.
  5. How to create a good first impression.
  6. How to overcome procrastination.
  7. How to manage your time.
  8. How to handle criticism.
  9. How to identify real friends.
  10. How to spend limited time on social media.
  11. Mobile etiquettes.
  12. How to apologize properly.
  13. How to develop a civic sense.
  14. How to get over the fear of public speaking.
  15. How to remove clutter and get organized.
  16. How to remember names.
  17. How to maintain good health.
  18. Culture, heritage, and nationalism.
  19. Developing the reading habit.
  20. Care for the environment.
  21. Goal setting.
  22. Value of money.
  23. Manners and etiquettes.
  24. Coping with stress.
  25. Helping and the joy of giving.

The link for enrolling for this online course is available on our website Happiness overloaded.